Whenever I have taught children, there has been an obsession with safety. This was a statement I made four years ago when I wrote an essay about people and their insane, irrational fear of being around children. Men need children. Children need men. While all men shouldn’t or have no desire to be around children,… Read More »
My favorite and most valued gift by the aging process is a great big case of the “Fuck Its”. At 15, 20 and even into my thirties there was a great deal of energy put into what people thought of me and adjusting my life and thinking to accommodate the ubiquitous “them”. While everyone commented… Read More »
About a week ago, an acquaintance invited me to a party with this preface: It’s just for women and we will have a male stripper but you can come since your gay”. I politely and shockingly declined. It was clear to me that this person like many others is confused about a definition of maleness… Read More »
When I began writing Unfettered Mind: The Importance of Black Male Mental Health, I was unaware of the need for mental health tools and the denial by many that this was not an issue that needed to be addressed. HIV, unemployment, cripplingly low self esteem and a host of other issues menace black men in… Read More »
“To be fearless no matter what happens-that is the root of true happiness. To move forward resolutely regardless of what lies in store-that is the spirit of, the resolve that leads to human victory. But if we allow ourselves to be disturbed by petty criticism and slander, or we fear pressure and persecution, we will… Read More »
Potato salad flowed. Greens were served and fried chicken got piled high. I recently spent the most glorious evening with a wonderful group of gay men. If you have never spent a good chunk of your evening in the company of adult men you have not lived. I had forgotten the joy that comes from… Read More »
I don’t know my Nephew. I have not seen my family in two years. Fear hurts. Fear kills. Fear breeds stupidity disguised as safety. As an out , proud black gay man, I am often asked to be less than my marvelous self. This can be addressed with a hearty fuck you. It is more… Read More »
I have spent half of my dating life with white men. As far as I can see, there is a great deal of confusion and mayhem regarding how these seemingly divergent groups get along, partner up and develop loving, committed non exploitative relationships. What is this thing we call attraction ? Is it learned ?… Read More »