When children are born, they are looking in the faces of all these strange people with one question in mind- Do I belong here? What we are seeking from birth onward is the question: Am I worthy of connection? As a culture, we refuse to see it and recognize it as normal, healthy and human.… Read More »
In this country, three factions can get away with telling the truth- mentally insane, small children and old folks. If you live long enough, you will get to spend some time in each category. Currently, I live and play behind door # 3. As I age, I find no reason to agree to bullshit I… Read More »
Almost ten years ago, I made a personal vow to myself. My vow was all about committing to a life of artistic merit. My decision was to give myself fifty years to “make it” in the arts. While my idea of having made it has changed considerably over the years, my desire to constantly create… Read More »
During the last fifteen years, I’ve chosen to confront and manage not only my wants but the wanting of those around me. At fifty, I still have a fair amount of wants and remain super clear as to how to manage them. I don’t want to become insane about them nor allow them to rule… Read More »
In the book, So Good They Can’t Ignore You, the writer shares a term (that I love) called Career Capital. This means there are folks who have put in their time, earned their stripes and learned “a thang or two about a thang or two”. When you hire an older guy like me or my… Read More »
Thirty years ago, I was flat out dumb about the power of finances. I spent money with abandon and knew nothing about saving, long term planning or the choices that could be created if one handled their finances. Using a money blueprint that was passed down to me from my family, I constantly whined that… Read More »
As you age and try to put together your next steps, it becomes easy to feel disappointed, less than and begin comparing yourself to others. In my personal life, I am now seeing friends, colleagues and ex-classmates surpass me in their career and social visibility. While the adult, grown-up mind in me says, of course,… Read More »
As I mentioned earlier, this year I turned fifty. It seems that people think it is over. What would I do if I listened to people who say go away, die. While no one will say it directly, the culture will tell you that you are washed up and that you should simply let go… Read More »
My eyes no longer work. I can read and see street signs and apparently this is all you need to get a new pair of glasses and be able to function in the real world. I used to dance all night multiple nights a week and jump right up and go to work after a… Read More »
Brene Brown in all fierce wisdom reminds us that men are socialized to not “appear weak”. This set up demands that men have all the answers all the time and be willing to share this knowledge with the world just to make sure that everyone in earshot knows the proper course of action. Many times… Read More »